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effects of homophobia

Posted in life with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 4, 2009 by gothiclg

homophobia takes a toll on a lot of peoples lives–not just those people who choose to come out as members of the glbt community.

some high school age children (and adults depending on if they turn 18 before or after they graduate) may fear bringing glbt friends (or those who support glbt rights) home in fear that parents will be offensive to the friend. i know i personally avoided bringing any friends over until by own grad party was set to happen knowing a lot of friends supported glbt rights and one was openly bi. i already knew my own mother may make comments about how all gays were disgusting and going to hell (thanks to the age old “gays are an abomination) and may dad may come out with his same old “all gay people are in a gang” comment. being bisexual myself (and an avid gay rights supporter for many years) and growing up in this enviroment i felt uncomfortable enough being in this environment, none the less introduceing my friends to it.

for those being openly glbt they face even more discrimination about coming out of the closet. i know plenty of friends that are afraid to come out with their sexuality because of how people will react to a sexuality they cant change. with some of said friends i only know their being anything other than straight because i was already open about my own sexuality. some wouldnt even come out of the closet to a room of glbt rights activists (often meeting as gsa’s) in fear that even there they would be discriminated against despite the people being openly supportive of what the community goes through as a whole.

many often wont come out of the closet as glbt at all because of homophobia and hatred. they’ll be stuck in misarable marrages because they dont feel safe marrying (or dont have the right to marry the man/women of their dreams) the person they wish to. those that are trans may not feel safe getting the gender switch they want because of this hatred despite their ability to pay for the surgery. no one in this group is even safe from being murdered because of their sexuality. people like lawrence king, a middle school student murdered by a classmate for being gay and mentioning the other boy was “cute”, appear every year.

living in colorado i even know of trinidad, the sex change capitol of the world. even with this major city to the transsexual community existing in my home state their still major hate for them in this country. i already personnally know one person who is transgender who refuses to tell his family that he isnt his born gender and doesnt want to be called his original name because he already knows that telling them he wishes to chage to male would be a death sentence.

this is something many of us want to get rid of. its already something many hate groups keep us from being able to gain politically everywhere. there always seems to be one out there somewhere to hold us back. many of us wont be able to gain full marrage rights in our home state because these groups and people keep fighting to keep us from getting the equal rights we feel we deserve.

for those of you out there who have been helping our community gain the rights we deserve, thank you. you’ve helped us a lot. some of us you’ve helped emotionally more than you know.

for those of you against gay rights who possibly think about gays the way my parents do i have some questions id like you to honestly think about. what if the world and the law wasnt already in your favor? what if you couldnt marry your opposite sex partner because those who were glbtq didnt support heterosexual marraige? wouldnt you fight for what we are to?

none the same in death

Posted in life with tags , , , on October 26, 2008 by gothiclg

thanks to a mix of a scary movie and a guy i work with on occation (most chill guy ever and the most honest person ive ever met, parents included) ive realized how unfair death really is, how no one’s equal in deaths eyes. the people who’ve never done shit to anyone can die young just because someone’s karma decided to take them out of the frame while people like osama bin laden get to kick it in some hole somewhere without death coming anywhere close to them. its like death just likes to cut people off whenever it feels like it without any regard to their acitons in life or the evil they’ve done to anyone else. it scares me that ive tried to do so much good in the lives of the people around me (and i can only hope i have done some good) yet i can be cut out of the frame a lot sooner than a mass murderer or anyone whose commited a major crime. ive already almost lost life twice and know the feeling to be afraid of looseing my life and learning to appriciate it yet i never know how much i’ll ever truely have.

96% of people said they wouldnt want to know when and how they’d die, im in that 96%, but i cant help but wonder why the evil people in the world arent taken out of the frame long before i would be. sure, i know that everyone has to be taken out of the picture eventually but its not as fair that those who’ve spent their lives trying to improve others lives can die a lot sooner than those who havent.

chinese fire drills

Posted in life, travel with tags , , , , on October 22, 2008 by gothiclg

we pulled another one today…well at least my friends sister and her friends did. we were at the light at wal-mart and they got out and ran. one of the friends dropped a pack of gum but he always drops something. last time it was his phone in my car, i left it to freeze in my car that night and gave it to him the next day. was fun to watch them run around the car though.

the campaign adds are beginning to annoy me. i’ve seen them a million times and its beginning to get old seeing all of the negativity. ive even been getting campaign adds in the mail from both campaigns with even more negativity. you’d think they’d have figured out that promoteing what they beleive in may work alot better for those of us in the moderate section of the political spectrum. sure, some pay attention to those (i did for awhile there) but not everybody. i guess they gotta get the idiots to vote for them somewhere, right?

crazy times

Posted in class/school, life, travel with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 21, 2008 by gothiclg

today started out a bit crazy and only got crazier. it seemed like i was about to be hit the whole drive to school and it got crazier from there. most of the day i guess you could say was calm until we got to the point we went to pick my sister up from school. when we got there i put my car in park at the curb and we randomly wanted to do a chinese fire drill for no good reason. after we fineally decided we wanted to park and go in and talk to people we knew from before until we got kicked out a half hour later. fineally we left there and headed home. on the way my friend had me stop at two different stoplights on purpose (we went really slow) so we could do chinese fire drills the right way. she and i were the only ones that did the first one and her sister and her sisters friend did that one. it was a blast. at least one person laughed at us and more probably thought we were on some sort of drugs

while passing wal-mart though we spotted this hot guy. my friend told me to honk at him for something to do and i did (which she wasnt expecting) and the dude seriously spun around to see who was honking! we were all cracking up and my friend called out the window to him. crazy crazy day.